There was a baseball player, Will Clark, San Francisco Giants, who I followed back in the day. He had the most elegant swing and could hit the ball for power and got on base often (my apologies to non-baseball fans, but this will make sense soon). His baseball lens for seeing the ball coming to the plate was unsurpassed.
Without corrective lenses, such as reading a lot of Bowlby, consulting with others who believed in the central importance of attachment, learning E.F.T., my vision got cloudy.
Now, after years and years of this work, I think I spend more of the day with 20/20 attachment lenses. I aspire for the 20/10 vision of Will Clark. And at times, there are glimpses of that. This is part of the journey that is most difficult learning E.F.T. It has been, and continues to come back as a struggle, that is the clarity of my attachment vision. When I see, feel and sense underlying insecure attachment rather than doubt the couple’s bond, the model or myself, then the power of E.F.T. increases. And then a couple comes and challenges me, and my vision gets fuzzy again.