Typical Reactions to an Atypical Situation: Coping during Covid19

Where to turn for support during Covid19 Crisis

All around the U.S. and beyond, Emotionally Focused Therapists continue to provide relational support and mental health services to couples, families and individuals.  Some E.F.T. Therapists work in front line situations such as hospitals, where they face exposure to the Covid19 virus as do their clients.  But the majority made a smooth transition to offering services via privacy compliant online meeting technology such as Zoom, Webex and Doxy Me.

Our director, Jim Thomas, noted, “And some clients prefer the old-fashioned phone for therapy.”  So if you are struggling with this unprecedented situation, or seeking support for preexisting relationship tensions, conflict or distance, there is help available.

It is important for us all to remember that this situation is unique, and as were are in the midst of it, stress is high:

1)  Waves of emotion are to be expected.  Many therapists report that clients share that their emotions and mental well-being are fluctuating more, and they are feeling the ups and downs more acutely.

2)  Closeness in the form of sheltering-in-place can be a mixed blessing.  After an initial lull, a respite from being in shock of being laid off or the adjustment of working from home, old patterns and cycles often return with a bang.

3)  Fears versus Worry:  Financial concerns, worries for our health and our loved ones, and wondering when we all might return to some sense of “normal” abound.  You are not alone in that.  It is important to try to separate concrete fears, like while I get unemployment benefits, from general anxiety.  For many, simple mantras such as looking at what is within our control or influence, “What can I do about this, if anything, today?” versus things beyond our control is important, “I cannot control if and when my business can open back up.”  Differentiating real life fears from free floating anxieties and sharing fears with others can be helpful.

4)  Look for opportunities to connect:  People are very open in general to hearing from others.  We need connection.  And, our emotional brains need deep connection.  “I have been reaching out to several people, and we are having heart to heart talks once a week.  We get vulnerable about how all this is impacting us,” Jim Thomas shared.  “It helps to ground and center me.  And our talks serve as a benchmark.  We reflect together about our struggles with all of this.  We also share gratitude, and talk about how we are growing new muscles, new coping skills.”

5)  Trauma, anxiety, addiction and shame may rise to the surface.  We see a correlation between issues like a rise in unemployment numbers and an increase in drug use and abuse.  Liquor stores remain open in most areas.  The temptation to turn to alcohol to soothe and distract runs high.  Traumatized parts of oneself, anxious aspects of us may find this situation triggering.  The intensity of the situation reminds us of other times we were in danger.  Remembering to slow down, not watch so much news, breathe and connect with others is essential.

So if you are need of support, there are Certified E.F.T. Therapists here in Colorado .

And around the U.S. and the world

Support during the Covid19 crisis is available.  Reach out, stay connected as we all go through this unprecedented time of change together.