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Loving and Leaning in to Emotional Withdrawal in E.F.T.

I am excited to announce a new Master Class centered on emotional withdrawal.  This builds on the work of Dr. Sue Johnson, EFT colleagues, and lessons learned from couples in my office.  These training classes evolve organically.  My couples, both withdrawers and pursuers, start to offer particular feedback and deepen in to some aspect of the E.F.T. Couples Therapy experience.  As a therapist, I hear colleagues asking about the very same thing.  And then as a person, I find my own raw spots and signature themes that come up in this area.  Most recently, the focus has been working with emotional withdrawal (in both withdrawers, but in pursuers too). The […]

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Sue Johnson Receives Highest Civilian Award in Canada

Dr. Sue Johnson has just been awarded the Order of Canada. This is the highest civilian award given by the Canadian Government for Outstanding Achievement, Dedication to the Community and Service to the Nation. Sue was given this award in recognition for her paradigm shifting, innovative work in couple and family therapy interventions, her research and her contribution to the training of mental health professionals around the globe, as well as her popular educational books and programs for the public. On behalf of the entire Colorado E.F.T. Community, the many therapists, couples and families positively impacted by Dr. Johnson’s work, we give a hearty and loving congratulations to our esteemed colleague and mentor. “This award […]

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On Improving Our Therapist Attachment Lens

There was a baseball player, Will Clark, San Francisco Giants, who I followed back in the day.  He had the most elegant swing and could hit the ball for power and got on base often (my apologies to non-baseball fans, but this will make sense soon).  His baseball lens for seeing the ball coming to the plate was unsurpassed. Turns out, Mr. Clark had 20/10 vision.  Yes, he saw things 20 feet away as if they were 10 feet away.  Remembering this got me thinking about my attachment lens.  When first doing attachment-based work, I believe my vision was more like 20/100.  Attachment bonds that were right in front of me […]